Evidence of a truly positive and self-confident person is seen in personal responsibility. Self-confident individuals do not blame other people or circumstances for misfortune or poor results. Self-confident and positive people are proactive, they don´t blame the economy, bad luck, a bad relationship, the weather, "unlucky" situations, the market, or their employees. Proactive/Self-confident people figure out how they can personally change, instead of focusing their energy on where others should change.
Here are a few steps to build more self confidence that I found on wikihow.com.
1. Recognize your insecurities. What makes you feel bad about yourself? This could be anything from physical appearance to past regrets, or whatever makes you feel unworthy, ashamed, or inferior. Identify these things and take steps to fix them, or make a choice to love you for who you are. There are a lot more screwed up people out there than you.
2. Remember that no one is perfect. Even the most confident people have insecurities. Don’t make this false belief that self confident people are perfect be a stumbling block for your own self confidence. You will always have insecurities, and some of them you will never be able to change, to key is to own them and not let them run your life.
3. Identify your successes. Everyone is good at something, so discover the things that you excel in. Take pride in those things, give yourself credit for your successes.
4. Be thankful for what you have. Much of the time a lack of self-confidence is rooted in the feeling that you are not keeping up with the Jones’s. Truly successful people do not flaunt what they have, so if you feeling insecure because you do not have the same toys, cars, homes, etc as someone else, you may want to be thankful you do not those things because that other person may be in debt up to their eyeballs in order to pay for them. Real successful people, not the people you see on tv, live in modest homes, wear modest clothing, purchase pre-owned cars, and do not waste money on flashy stuff.
5. Be Positive, even if you don’t fell like it. Avoid self-pity, or the pity and sympathy of others. Don’t let other people make you feel bad about yourself. If you think negatively about yourself, other will too. Instead speak positively about your-self, your future, and about your achievements.
6. Accept compliments!!!!!!! An insecure person rarely accepts accomplishments well. If someone compliments your outfit, don’t say, “oh, this old thing”, or “yeah, right I hate the way it looks on me” or just shrug it off. Take it to heart and respond with a confident THANK YOU and a smile. Do the same thing for any sincere compliment you receive.
7. Fake it. You have all hear the term “Fake it till you make it”. If you don’t feel self confident, Fake it, and eventually you will.
8. Stick to your Principles. You have all heard the old saying, “if you stand for nothing, you will fall for anything” Stand up for what you believe in. Every time you take a stand for something you think is right, you boost confidence in yourself.
9. Help others. Some people believe in karma, some believe in reciprocity, or sewing and reaping. Whatever you call it, when you help others, two things will happen, first, you will feel better about yourself, and second good things will come back around your way. Both of which will boost your confidence.
It's a Good Life!!!
Greg Novak MBA
Branch Manager
Eagle Nationwide Mortgage Company
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- USDA & Rural Development Mortgage Loans
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